I've decided to give myself a challenge for the rest of the year. I am making myself say "No thank you" to things I feel like I should do, but don't want to do. In an effort to curb my people pleasing, and say yes to myself more. I have a goal of 5 No Thank Yous a day. There are 8 weeks (or so) left in 2020 and if I actually did it daily I could get to 280. I want to see how long it takes me to get to 100.
I call it my "Say No thanks to others, and say YES to myself challenge." Like it? Saying no thanks politely, cleanly and firmly to others is not a skill set that we are taught. We have a lot of junk thoughts like " It would be rude to say no, I don't want to hurt their feelings" and "I ought to, it's the right thing to do, even if I don't feel like it." and " I should say yes to be nice." But there is a downside to that, and simply put, saying yes to others can often mean saying no to yourself. I want to say yes to myself more. Because ultimately I want to live the life I love, not the one that I think I "should' love.
It should be an interesting experiment. It will an exercise in trial and error, and I suspect it will be a total balancing act.
Want to join in and see what we discover?